Jennifer Lopez's first husband claims that Beniffer 2.0 is headed for divorce.
Ojani Noa, 48, claims his ex-wife loves being in love but she loses interest when the passion in her marriage fades, according to the Daily Mail.
Noa, who met J-Lo at Cuban refugee waiting tables in Miami, has kept a low profile since his one-year relationship with the former In Living Color Fly Girl in 1998 ended. She said her recent engagement to Ben Affleck brought back a lot of old memories.
Ben is the fourth husband. She told me she loved me since I was her husband. When we sat down on our wedding night, she promised us that we would be together forever.
Lopez, 53, has been engaged six times, including twice to the Good Will Hunting actor, some 20 years apart.
Noa flies to the United States when he was 15 and survived the 90-mile journey to the United States. By the age of 22, he began cooking dishes at Gloria Estefans' Ocean Drive restaurant Larios On The Beach.
Miami was pulsating. I did some modeling. I hustled. I wanted the American dream, and I found it when Jen walked into Larios, according to the source.
I had no clue who she was. Our eyes turned to one another and I thought she was the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.
Lopez went back to the bar the next night, and Noa served her another group of customers French fries after she said they were delectable, according to the report.
I was instantly attracted to Noa's white blouse and black trousers, and I remember thinking she had the best body I've ever seen. She later admitted to me that she knew that first night she'd marry me.
According to Noa, the duo dined at a Commune club later that night.
Jen was taken to the dance floor by a friend of mine who I thought was a lucky guy. Then her friend suggested, take Jen out there when they return. It's what she's interested in.
They return, and I take her hand and lead her down to the floor, and a slow song comes on. It was electric. She was shaking and said, You make me nervous.
We could both feel the romantic energy. It was instant and intense. Like it was pouring through our bodies. I said, I feel the same way youre feeling. I lifted her chin and gave her a kiss it was like we'd known each other forever.
A passerby exclaimed "Oh my God, that's Jennifer Lopez from Money Train," and remarked "It's when I realized she was someone."
Jen needed to see me before her flight the next morning. The door goes and I open it and she falls into my arms. We kissed, and as she drove off in her limo, I thought, This is it. This is crazy,' Noa told the Mail.
According to the Mail, Noa talked to Lopez frequently from the payphone at the restaurant while she was in Los Angeles. When she returned to Florida, she invited him to be her date for the premier of Blood and Wine.
I rented a cheap outfit. When we got to the red carpet, there were all these flashing lights and fans screaming. I began to shiver. I walked down the carpet holding her hand then stood to the side while she gave interviews.
I sat down and said, Jack, I want to meet my date, Ojani. I turned back and she started talking about me. She then said, This is Michael, and it was Michael Caine. I felt as if I was in a movie. A few years ago I was on a dinghy in the ocean running away from Fidel Castro, and now I am on a red carpet.
Noa told the outlet that after the premiere the couple concluded their relationship.
It was the first time we fell in love. She was perfect. We sat there afterwards and she said, I want you to always be in my life. I love you. I felt like Mr. Cinderella, according to the source.
Noa said he believed the relationship worked because he was not impressed by her celebrity.
She is a traditional girl from a modest Puerto Rican family. She wanted someone to protect her, someone who would stand up for her. According to the article, we fell in love.
I resigned from my job and moved to Los Angeles. We lived in a nice apartment until our first house was built. She loved that I was a balseros [rafter] from Cuba. I never wanted anything from her. I always worked and had my own money, according to his memoirs about life with the Bronx native.
When she got Selena, we traveled to San Antonio, Texas, for the shoot, and every night wed return to the hotel and shed tears in my arms. She didnt believe she was worthy. In the middle of the night she would cry and said she was the best.
She loves shopping and we went to the local mall when she wasn't filming. One day we went to a jewelry store and she started looking at rings. She pointed at one and said, I love that one.
I snuck back in the store and told the lady to put it to the side. I had a lot of money saved up. The ring cost $15,000 back then. I hid it under the sink.
According to the source, Noa proposed to Lopez during the wrap party for the critically acclaimed film.
Everyone was joking. I went down on one knee and gave her the diamond. She was crying and laughing and said Yes!,' he reportedly recalls.
According to the article, tensions developed when Lopez's mother chastised her for choosing to marry in Florida rather than the Bronx.
Jen would cry all the time because her mother was yelling and claiming her to change the venue. So I called [Jens mother Guadalupe Lopez] Lupe and said, You must put an end to this. That was a big mistake. From then on, there was conflict between me and Lupe.
Lopez's jilted lover said she noticed something happening very quickly with increasing wealth and fame.
She went from Jen to J-Lo, this big business that is making millions of dollars. She had all these new people around her, all wanting to make money off her. I would text and an assistant would say, "No, she is not available."
According to the article, when Noa was hired to launch Lopez's LA nightclub, pictures were published of his wife with Puff Daddy, who was composing some of his music in New York.
Jen said, "It's just business." This is what I'm told I have to do." I was ecstatic and would scream, "You are married!"
We wanted kids, and we discussed having kids. Then she told me she couldn't have a baby because it would interfere with her career, as he lamented.
Noa and Lopez appeared on Oprah, where she denied that the marriage was in jeopardy.
Noa said his entire existence had become a lie. He remembered how he lost 40 pounds due to the stress of the facade.
We went to the Golden Globes and talked with Jack [Nicholson]. He said, You guys are so beautiful. I told him, It's not what it appears. He told me to hang in there. I never imagined I'd get relationship advice from Jack Nicholson.
Lopez and Lopez split up after 11 months, and the couple began dating Puff Daddy publicly shortly thereafter.
According to the report, Noa was left with $50,000 in a settlement agreement and continued to wear his ring as the two remained close.
Several times she said she wanted to get back together. In quiet moments she would say, "I need you in my life. I do not want to lose you."
Lopez's brief relationship with Chris Rudd ended, and Affleck popped the question for the first time before she officially split from her backup dancer.
Lopez would marry Marc Anthony two years later, in 2004. The couple remained friends for ten years.
According to the article, the actress hired Noa to manage a restaurant in Los Angeles in 2002, but he dismissed him three years later. He sued her, settled, and moved back to Florida, where he has not remarried.
Noa said he believes he could have gotten to Jenny From The Block had it not been for parasites who feed off celebrities and media reports that described him as a penniless waiter.
I wish her and Ben the best, but I'm not sure it'll last forever, as Ojani said.
She is a person who will be married seven or eight times. I cant imagine her ever settling down with one person. She constantly strives to improve herself in her professional life, which is why she has had a three-decade career, but also moves on in her private life.
Ben may have a chance if he has Lupe on his side, Ojani told The Mail, smiling.