DEAR ABBY: A friend of mine lost her husband a couple of years ago. I didn't thought she was seeking love or companionship, but I'm also concerned that all of a sudden she has met a younger guy. I have seen several red flags, but I'm not sure if I should say anything.
In a resort town three hours away, a man has posted a photo of himself at his social media page. (I don't have any details on who he is, however, who he is, or who he is). I also saw one of his daughter, who is about 13, along with several pictures of a woman I believe to be his beautiful significant other posing with him and his daughter.
On my friend's birthday, he showed up at her door with a massive bouquet, balloons, and so on. She called a mutual friend about the flowers and was all giddy. This scenario makes me suspect he is a predator who might start asking her for money. SIGNS IN FRIEND
DEAR FRIEND: If it were me, I'd ask my friend how SHE enjoyed the family dinner at her lake house, and if she had seen it on his Facebook. Finally, I would explain her how seeing his claim that the place is "his" made you do a double-take. After that, I would simply listen.
DEAR ABBY: As my mother-in-law was never a particularly strong mother. Especially when a situation arises, she interjects herself into every aspect of my family's life. This past week, it concerned the death of my wife's father. We kept her truck hidden inside our window to protect him from harming his dad.
My wife refuses to stand up to her when she acts like this. This woman has more than once come between me and my wife. It's not my intention to confront her or my wife about this. Please tell me if I am being unreasonable. HUSBAND AND DAD IN GEORGIA
DEAR HUSBAND: I don't think you are being unreasonable. I believe you need to have a serious, private conversation with your wife. Both of you must learn how to establish strong boundaries for her mother. If you need help, contact a marriage counselor. A marriage in which one spouse is facing significant problems.
DEAR READERS: At the sundown, the first night of Passover begins. This important Jewish holiday commemorates the most significant event in Jewish history, including the liberation of the Jewish people in Egypt. Merry Passover to my readers who watch this important holiday. -- ABBY, LOVE
Abigail Van Buren, who is also known as Jeanne Phillips, wrote Dear Abby and has since become a father to her mother Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.