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Dear Annie, I feel like I have wasted my time

Dear Annie, I feel like I have wasted my time

Dear Annie, without trying to make it arrogant, I am more smart than the average bear. Not quite a genius, but certainly up there. I won all kinds of academic awards in school and have three degrees.

I am now the mother of two children with special needs and have spent most of my life being their caregiver (for whom I do not blame them at all because they needed help and Im their mother) and a full-time homemaker. I feel ashamed and overwhelmed.

Do I have a responsibility to use my gifts? Did I let myself and/or others down because I didnt really? Do I need to establish a goal for myself, and if so, what? -- Really Not Conceited

You haven't let anyone down. You've raised two children and made a loving home. So please stop beating yourself up for not having pursued all of your dreams yet. There is still plenty of time. Many famous writers and artists got started after 40, though this isn't about chasing after fame.

Dear Annie, I'd never had trouble with my eyesight until recently. My job is focusing on a computer screen for eight hours a day. That's a lot of blue light. Would wearing prescription lenses help? I want to be proactive about this so that I can avoid further loss of eyesight.

Youre wise to be vigilant about your vision. For many of us, good eyesight was one of those things we didn't know that we had until it was gone. First and foremost, you should see an optometrist.

Before you get to the doctor, here are some tips. TIP: When you're on the job, you should look away from your monitor and at something in the distance for about 20 seconds, and blink rapidly. Do this preferably every 10 minutes, but at least every 20 minutes. There are web browser plug-ins that will remind you to take these breaks

Keep your monitor at least 20 inches from your face.

Adjust the brightness of the monitor so it's close to the brightness of your surroundings.

Adjust the color temperature of your monitor so that its warmer-toned, which will cause less pressure.

Continue to pay attention to any changes in your vision. Your peepers are precious.

Annie Lane is back this week, but it's not the first time she has published her column in 2019.


It's up now! Annie Lane's second anthology -- featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication, and reconciliation -- is available in the mail.


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