Dear Annie, I think Ive wasted my time
Dear Annie: Without trying to sound arrogant, I am smarter than the average bear. Not quite a genius but certainly up there. I won all kinds of academic awards in school and have three degrees.
I am now the mother of two children with special needs. I have spent most of my life as a caregiver (for whom I do not blame them at all for being their mother) and a full-time homemaker. I feel frustrated myself, as though I wasted my time. I don't know how to describe it.
Do I have a responsibility to use my gifts? Did I let myself and/or others down because I didnt really? Do I need to set a goal for myself, and if so, what? -- Really Not Conceited
You haven't let anyone down, but you have raised two kids and made a loving home. So take your time out of your day for creativity, by doing anything that nourishes the part of yourself that you feel heretofore has been underfed.
Dear Annie, Id never had problems with my eyesight until recently. My job is ignoring a computer screen for eight hours a day. That's a lot of blue light. Would wearing prescription lenses help? I want to be proactive in dealing with this so that I can avoid further eye loss.
Your eyesight is one of those things we didnt know that we had until it was gone. First and foremost, you should consult an optometrist.
TIP: After youre in work, make sure to look away from your monitor for about 20 seconds and blink quickly. Do this preferably every 10 minutes, but at least every 20 minutes. There are web browser plug-ins that will remind you to take these breaks.
Keep your monitor at least 20 inches from your face.
Adjust the brightness of the monitor so its close to the brightness of your surroundings.
Adjust the temperature of your monitor's color so that it's warmer-toned, which will result in less strain.
Keeping an eye on the changes in your vision will remain constant. Your peepers are precious.
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