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Dear Annie: How do I tell my partner I don't want more children?

Dear Annie: How do I tell my partner I don't want more children?

Dear Annie: Ive been with my significant other for almost three years now. We live together and have a fairly good life. I have a child from formerly-related relationships who is in high school. My significant other does not have children, but he is involved in extracurricular activities and is a great example of sage parent. I was told that no more children is a deal-breaker on my side, and I, at the time, kinda said, Well cross that bridge when we get there. We're there, and I now know for certain that I don't want any more children. -- I'm getting my head screwed up.

Dear Screwed Communication is necessary -- especially with a life partner. You cant rely on them to read your thoughts. Tell him how you feel, and do it quickly. Its not fair for him to continue believing in a future youve already written off.

Dear Annie, Last year, while we were in quarantine, my very first boyfriend of a year and heiress, Joey, admitted wishing to end it because 'he had been talking to another girl during the period we're in danger'. He said it was a girl I didnt know.

Our nation was in a strict lockdown during this period. I was shattered, but I knew he wasnt for me if il did. My best and dearest friend of seven years, Pam, comforted me.

Pam acknowledged then that he had shown interest in her at the time, but she denied that she had told him off immediately. She always thought he was annoying and said she didnt respond to him at all other than to tell him off. Pam has never had a boyfriend, but she's always wanted one. Her parents wanted her to wait until she was a little older. She seemed a little jealous of the time I spent with Joey, so I always made it gimmicky to spend time with her alone. Joey was a member of our larger friend group at school, but was alienated when he and I split it up. Everyone thought he was an idiot to cheat on me like that.

Pam told a mutual friend last week that she was the reason Joey and I split up last year. I confronted Pam today, and she admitted that she was the other girl. She was extremely upset and sorry. She claimed Joey had called her and stated how much he liked her, and she thought about liking him in this hourlong phone call. She said it was not more than that before she came to her senses and rejected his idea. Pam says she wanted to tell me, but couldnt, and it has been eating at her for the past year. What should I do? -- Jilted Teen: Forgive Pam, who has never done anything like that before, or stop being her friend? -- Forget Pam -- Who hasn't done something like this before?

Dear Jilted Teen, Joey's actions on you were terrible. Talking to another girl behind your back was certainly betrayal enough, but doing it with your best friend was especially nasty. Pam discovered the idea of liking him only salt the wound.

Pam, on the other hand, appears to have done everything right after a few minutes to process. Despite her jealousy that you had a boyfriend, she came to her senses and refused his idea.

Pams actions demonstrate that she cares more about your friendship than a new fling. Joeys actions, on the other hand, have already damaged one relationship; dont allow them to ruin another.

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