Mom prefers to sell her wedding dress to a stranger than let her teen daughter try it on her
DEAR ABBY: From my closet, I'm cleaning out my vanity and have decided to sell my wedding dress from 21 years ago. I love the dress; its beautiful. Its also a big box to store.
My 16-year-old daughter has stated to me that she will never marry. Because she is my only daughter, it was difficult for me to accept. The thing is, she wants to try my dress on. I don't want her to because she doesn''T support the importance of marriage or the commitment of it, and I do not want my wedding dress tried on by anyone who feels this way about marriage. It's more than playing dress-up, and I believe it should only be worn by someone who respects it.
Am I wrong? Is my daughter able to have hurt feelings over this? -- NOT a GAME OF DRESS-UP?
You don't have to be fooled. But if you are trying to implore your values on your adolescent daughter, I highly doubt it will work. I wish you had mentioned why your daughter feels the way she does. Have you asked her that question? Instead of arguing about whether she has a right to put on your wedding dress, tens of thousands of dollars worth of work is possible.
P.S. Because you are in desperate need of storage space, consider donating the dress to a bride-to-be whose traditional values mirror your own.
DEAR ABBY: I drive a classic automobile every day to work at tens of thousands of miles at an engineering site. People often ask me about selling it since I started working there this summer. Most of the time I take it as a compliment and tell them it isn't for sale, but the same people often ask. It's beginning to get on my nerves. Ive even seen people trying to open the hood to view the engine while I'm off in the distance. I understand that people asking about it is part of having an old vehicle, but I do not have a new car or mode of transportation, and Im starting to get worried. Any advice would be appreciated. -- ON EDGE IN GEORGIA
DEAR ON EDGE: Tell the offenders (again) that your car isn't for sale AND you don'' t want anyone to touch it. If it continues to happen, tell your supervisor or boss that someone trying to get into it while youre off in the distance makes you concerned for the safety of your vehicle. If your automobile is damaged, there may be legal action. Change jobs, however, if youre still not feeling well after that.
DEAR ABBY: I'm having issues with feelings I shouldn't be having about someone. When I come over, she's always walking around in her underwear. I like it, of course, but I'm not sure if it is meant to calm me or obstruct me. Id really appreciate your assistance if you were to be able to get it done. -- CONFUSED IN THE EMAIL
When there is a shadow of ambiguity, he should COMMUNICATE to avoid any unfortunate misunderstandings. In this case, it's appropriate to ask this woman why she walks around in a state of undress when you are there because you don't know how to interpret the message it sends. ADDITIONAL INFORMATION ON ANYTHING UNLESS HER RESPONSE IS THAT IT WOULD BE BECOMEED.
Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, wrote Dear Abby, and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillipson. Dear Abby at (800) 929-7016 www.DearAbby.com is a website that specializes in hearing disorders. or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.